In the past, there was always a social stigma with meeting a love interest online. Many people wouldnāt even admit they met their significant other on the Internet! But with social media being such a BIG ta-do these days, the stigma has quickly faded. Is it a yay or nay thing to do? Iām sure everyone has scrolled through Tinder a time or two.
Soā¦.
My friends have been telling me for a long time now to get out there and meet new guys. Iām always skeptical to jump back in the dating scene because Iām leery of people, in general. But, considering the fact that Iām not getting any younger, and realizing I have nothing to lose in meeting new people, I decided to give their idea a chance.
See, my problem is that I constantly deal with the same ole guys. Itās like I have them in rotation. And the bad part is, every time Iām done with them, it seems as if we end on worse terms than we ever did previously. That game has gotten old. With this in mind, I decided to go ahead and download a dating appā¦.why the heck not, right?
Hereās the thing: I HATE dating apps! Every time I re-download an app and start browsing around, I immediately remember WHY I didnāt stay on it before. Itās not for me!
Reasons?
1. Iām very social and outgoing once I get to know someone. But Iām not the best at approaching guys online or going up to randoms when Iām out on the town, and sparking conversation. So, even if Iām a match with someone on these sites, I never have the balls to make the first move. The same thing can be said for real life.
2. I donāt like the whole āblindā aspect of it. Iām not a fan of blind dates. Sure, they have pics on their profiles for me to gawk at, but I think weāve all learned enough from āCatfishā to know that if someone online seems too good to be true, they usually are.
3. This world is FULL of crazy people! Iām always afraid Iām going to end up meeting a serial killer or someone who is just plain bat-shit crazy! Iām not about that life. Especially because I have a child. I donāt want some crazy person coming into my life, let alone my childās life. For me, introducing anyone new to my son is a very tricky/picky/ sensitive/ touchy situation for me. This explains why I always go back to those fools from high school; Iām comfortable with them and I āknowā them!
4. I NEVER get messaged by someone Iām interested in. Thereās always someone in my inbox who is foreign, creepy or completely NOT my type. I try not to be shallow and say, āokay, maybe I should step outside the box and look for something out of my norm, because my norm never seems to work out.ā But, I always end up finding something so unappealing about them that Iām turned off altogether.
5. STAGE 5 CLINGERS EVERYWHERE! Nothing else needs to be explained with this one.
6. To be honest, I never remember to regularly check the app for messages. Itāll be days before I respond to someone, and at this point, they are pissed with me.
7. I get bored easily. The first few days, Iām super excited to explore. After that, Iām over it. (Iām currently in the āover itā phase. Hence, the reason why Iām writing this post.)
And lastly, but certainly the most important reason:
8. Most men on there are looking for casual sex, nothing more. Thatās an automatic turn-off for me. Especially when the first words to come out of your mouth have some kind of sexual connotation attached to them.
Donāt get me wrong, I know plenty of people who have been very successful finding their mate online. I guess I just donāt have the drive or motivation to invest so much time into it; it never works out or I never follow through. So, my question isā¦what are some good apps/sites to try? Maybe Iām looking in the wrong places? Or maybe I should just go about this the old-fashioned way and get out of the house and meet people. I mean, I am in Vegas for goodness sakes! Between tourists and locals, if I canāt meet someone out here, maybe the problem is ME and not THEM!
But in the meantime, drop some of your favorite apps in the comments below, and maybe Iāll try them out and have better luck. Iāll definitely post with an update once Iāve tried them out. I hope youāve got some GREAT suggestions.
Help a sista out! Desperately (not really) Seeking Love,
TJ
**OMGā¦I just thought of it, speed dating! Has anyone tried that? Thoughts?
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